How do you get past a devastating hurt? No one really teaches us how, so we don’t. As time goes on, the same issue keeps coming up, the same theme reappears. Whether it is  insecurity or trust issues, you can see it repeat itself in your life.

Keep facing it.

Know that you can truly get past it. In order to completely overcome it, you have to be open to how your negative feelings are keeping it alive. Forgiveness of yourself or someone else also needs to happen.

If you keep the outcome that you want as your focus, you will find a way to move past it in a healthy manner.

One must realize the pain we cause ourselves by blaming and justifying our pain. Staying a victim of circumstance only holds you back from your own good fortune.

Do whatever is necessary for you to cope effectively with  the situation, so you can truly move forward. No one ever escapes  unfairness as it is a piece that is valuable to learning and experiencing life. But it does not need to hinder your happiness and growth.

That is the difficult part, recognizing what needs to be done in the first place and then, being brave enough to take action.

Don’t let failure stop you. Just because the first new move you make doesn’t work out, don’t give up. Gather yourself and plan together and try again. Remember to keep your focus on what you are wanting, and not the lack of it.

When we fall in love, we are only focused on the good things we like about that person and we are really accepting of their ” not so fine” qualities. Why do we lose that focus? Because we feel negative about the relationship or even about something else that has nothing to do with it. As we know, you get more of what you focus on, whether you want it or not.

I promised myself a long time ago that I would remember this in my next relationship. I would focus more on what led us together than our differences. I would be more accepting of who he is totally and not get stuck in a negative place for very long.

It can be challenging sometimes when I do not feel as well as I would like, but I am now conscious of it most of the time. That alone has already improved my relationships, not with just Sheldon, but everyone else as well.

Isn’t life really about feeling good and wanting to feel good? It is a common desire for all of us. Stay focused on the love that got you there and watch your life get better.

Six years to recover seems like a long time to me, but knowing how much healing needed to happen, six years is acceptable. I know I will probably always be dealing with some physical issue now that I have had my face transplant. I am ok with that, I made a conscious choice when I made that decision.

I truly have overcome so much and I sometimes need to remember that. I no longer live every day with that event weighing heavy on me and I do appreciate that.

I want to continue on this path of happiness that I have created for myself. I have a great life that I also want to continue to share with others as well.

Here’s to forward movement !

That is why waiting for the negative things to pass to see what positive things can come from it is my saving grace. That is how life flows. I can see this now in my life and remembering it helps me to refocus my attention on the better things to come.

It is easy to get caught up in negative cycles. Being patient for those times to pass makes those times more tolerable for me. Plus, things are never just bad, there is always something to be grateful and happy about.

I can now recognize this and start to curb my thoughts towards not believing  the fear. Still, it is difficult.  It takes confidence and practice. My happiness has grown ten-fold in the last 5 years, so it is sometimes easy to remember how much better I feel.

Fear is my excuse when I am not feeling strong enough to take that risk that I know, I will be better for.

The best thing about going through that kind of experience is it gives you another perspective to think about. After being really scared and not wanting to die, not this way, I really started to appreciate the life I had. I realized that I could tap into that part of me that was responsible for my survival. That is where the power really is.

If I get down about certain things that do not seem to be working out the way I would like, I remember all the twists and turns my life has taken and I go with my knowledge that all really is well, no matter what.

I remember one of the first times I tried to “stay in the moment” when I was overwhelmed and upset. I was successful for just that, a moment!  But over time, I got good at shifting my thoughts toward the more positive ones. In the case of being really upset or annoyed, I would have to just stop thinking about the subject all together .

One helpful thought for me has always been, “I am not going to think that this is extremely important in a month or so”. Another is learning what I can from the situation. If it is happening to me, then there is a reason. This helps me not to blame others.

Come up with your own way to deal with the negative situations. Over time it starts to change you for the better and brings out your higher self. It also allows you to move forward  more easily.

I took one subject at a time.

For example, I wanted to be able stop blaming life for my hardships and truly believed this was possible. Even though I could not fully understand why terrible things happened, I thought there must be some way I could understand more.

I searched for my own philosophy, what I really believed about why I was here in this world and how life really worked. It is not something I share with most people because I think we all need to discover what works for them. What works for me, doesn’t necessarily work for others.

To start, all you have to do is be more aware of what you want to find and become more conscious. Staying positive makes the journey a lot more fun and successful.