Lifetime Consequences

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Wednesday, January 21, 2015
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After the shooting at the Brigham yesterday , I found myself thinking about all the negative consequences that some people are unconsciously choosing.  Although society does not accept this, people find themselves in such a negative, painful place that the option to take someone else’s life before your own,  is acceptable to them.

We all know how unfair this is to those left behind.  But, done is done.  We cannot change the past.  But how can we make a difference?

I will incorporate this desperation in my future talks.  I never contemplaed taking anyone’s life intentionally , even Herb’s, but I know what it is like to feel so hopeless that happiness will not be obtainable.

We may not understand why, but we can overcome our tragedies and move forward, stronger.  Believe that you can.

Borrowed Time

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Tuesday, January 20, 2015
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There is something significant about the feeling of borrowed time.  Of course anyone who has had a close call with losing their life, can understand this.  

I am hoping that I , like my cat friends, have nine lives.  I plan to come back from each one!  Seriously though,  I have a feeling of being on “borrowed time.”  I have taken on uncertainty since my injury.  One being my face transplant.

There were never any guarantees and I knew this from the beginning.  Although I do not spend a long time focusing on this, it does come to my attention at important times.

I have a grandson now, the next generation.  Since his birth, I have been re-evaluating my own appreciation of my life.  I feel that his presences has given me an opportunity to reflect on how much I do appreciate being here.  

I sometimes move to fast towards the future, and I need to be reminded by the great changes in my life, to stop and count the blessings and there are so many of those!

Something Positive About Negative Things

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Monday, January 12, 2015
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Sounds a little funny doesn’t it?  But we all know there are two sides to everything, at least in our world.  Up, down, big , little, fast and slow.  The same goes for the events in our lives as well.  Positive events for some, end up being negative events for others.

I have to search, long and hard sometimes to find the opportunity in a negative event.  And frankly, sometimes I don’t ever feel that I do find it.  But, never the less, life gives me what I need.  I use all that I am aware of to move forward with what I am wanting.  I have been shown that the opportunities are bigger in the large, more difficult circumstances.

I still struggle in the moment sometimes to see that.  I too, get frustrated that life is not ending a painful situation for me.  But I have a strong perserverence, a gift really.  One that I hold onto and easily appreciate.

Stay strong , look for that opportunity.  It will come if you hold it in your thoughts and heart.

New Year, New Start

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Monday, January 5, 2015
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I always enjoy the New Year.  It makes me take the time to reflect on the last 12 months.  I had a great 2014 , in the way of my speaking, traveling and relationships.  I received many gifts, including my first grandchild.

I am looking forward to an even better, more inspiring and awesome new year! I am starting several new projects, including developing my second book.  This one will include more of my emotional and spiritual journey , along with the love story of meeting Sheldon and my face transplant experience.

Of course, life is not always easy or comfortable, so the more difficult challenges will be included as well.  I am blessed to find the strength needed to find my way, on my terms and hope to help others find theirs.

Happy New Year!!!

ESPN

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Friday, October 31, 2014
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I was extremely happy how well the E:60 show was produced!  Although difficult for some to watch, it certainly captured the intensity of those past moments.

I so much appreciate my daughters, Shell and Kess for their participation.  Liza and Hannah had never done a tv interview and I felt they did a great job.  They were sincere, genuine and loving.  Everyone could feel how much they care for me.  

I think ESPN is on the front edge of doing their part to help the domestic violence issues .  Let’s see what happens, hopefully the momentum will grow towards a healthy , positive dialog and change can start.

Thanks for all the comments, interest and love!  

My Heaven on Earth

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Wednesday, September 24, 2014
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Some of you know that finding my heaven on this Earth, has been a goal of mine for the last 4 years or so.  I have an enormous dream that I can create this for myself. 

I sit this morning in great appreciation for my life, my family, friends and for Sheldon. I know most of the time how fortunate I am for my survival, my life and all the great things that have happened and continue to happen.

I also know that unbelievable joy and happiness is available to all of us, no matter what. I can’t and won’t feel the need to convince anyone of this.  I only need to share my life, my story, and my love.

When you get a taste of how great your life can be, you won’t turn back to the past! Ahhhhhh, life is good!

Inspiration All Over the Place!

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Monday, September 22, 2014
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I am so excited to share my upcoming traveling schedule.  People may not realize that my inspiration comes from the people who attend my talks and events.  When they tell me that I have inspired them, helped them, it only inspires me more.  I see it as a great big ball of inspiration that is getting bigger and bigger! 

I will be in the state of Maine for two public events. One in Lewiston on October 1st, and one in Dover-Foxcroft on October 2nd.  From there, Sheldon and I are traveling to Porto, Portugal.  I was asked to be a keynote speaker at the 1st World Conference on Facial Expression.

After returning fron Portugal, I will be speaking at my oldest daughter’s college, Castleton State in Castleton, Vermont on October 22nd. Finally, we are going to Philly on the 24 th, to speak at the Gift of Life organizations 40 th Anniversary.

Then hopefully, the birth of my first grandchild will fall on his due date! My life is great and all the difficult things have only propelled me here !

Dreams on the Shelf

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Friday, September 19, 2014
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There are so many sayings about our dreams.  When we are in a happy place, we think of them, and encourage others to move forward with theirs.  But how many of us actually reach them?

For dreams to come true, there are a few necessary ingredients needed.  First, you need to have a firm, unwavering belief that it is a possibility.  Second, you need to have a strong desire to reach your goal.  This desire kicks in when things get tough or your faith slips.  Without this desire, you give up.

Lastly, focus is a key factor.  Taking baby steps everyday towards what you are wanting, keeps your positive momentum going.  Of course we all fall off the path.  Having the ability to regroup and move forward, is another key.  Every time you lose one of these keys and are able to get it back, you will have the confidence needed to move forward. 

We are all here for a purpose.  If you do not follow your dream, life cannot be as magnificent as you want it to be.  We all have the power to do what we have the desire for. Blessings are in the journey, find yours.

Talking About the Best

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Monday, September 15, 2014
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It can be difficult for us to break the pattern of speaking negatively  about our lives.  We tend to blame others, make excuses and justify our unhappiness.  Talking like this, only keeps us ingrained in this negative place.  Our society is full of negativity everywhere you look.

But, what if, you stopped looking?  What if you paid no attention to all of the opinions? Your ability to find your unique happiness along your journey, would be not only easier, but much more joyful.

We all allow our culture to run our lives.  As we grow and take responsibility for 100 percent of our lives, we can overcome this.

Start talking about the best part of your life.  Keep thinking and talking about what you love the most.  Leave the judgement of yourself and others behind.  It hinders your progress. Start with being more positive and see what happens. Your efforts will be greatly rewarded.

Security-It Only Comes From You

  • By Carmen Tarleton
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  • Monday, September 8, 2014
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There is a big misconception in our culture, many actually, but I am talking about the one of security.  Culture says that security comes from getting things outside of yourself.  Most people don’t understand that this is not how life works.

You are creating your world all from within yourself,  whether you are conscious of it or not, that is how it works.  If you are insecure about a specific subject, take money for example, having money won’t help that insecurity.  You have to become secure and worthy before you are at a place where things you desire can come into your life.

Money is an  easy example, because so many desire the freedom it provides in our society. But most people never have what they want. Why?  I believe it is because we get what we believe and think about.  Having significant money in this society, has a lot of false premises wrapped up around having it. 

Everything you want is obtainable. But you must understand and accept  the laws of the universe.  The universe is not passing judgment towards anyone. All the wise words from our history point us to a direction that is positive.  They tell  us over and over  again how much we are loved, worthy and magnificent.  Start believing that , and watch your happiness grow!